I don’t know if you’ve heard or not, but Jess and I are getting married! This excites beyond comprehension, but Jess and I know that there are somethings that we need to take care if in the process of being engaged. One of those things is getting on the same financial page. We aren’t polar opposites by any means, but we decided to take Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University together so that we could both have a plan and tell our money where it is going rather than have it tell us where it went.
Last night we watched the first lesson, about saving, and our “homework” for the week was to create a budget. Since we will not be married for another year, we created side by side budgets that share some overlap in what gets taken care of without attempting to pay each other’s bills or anything. For example, I buy most of our food, but we decided that the number for my food budget is too high, so we worked together so that the number for my food budget, which is where we eat most of our meals will go down. This took planning on all sorts of levels. We had to figure out how to lower it, and then once we decided that we would lower it, we had to figure out how to plan meals so that we could eat in more often.

- She lets me lead: This doesn’t mean that I’m the authoritative final word, and I get to call all the shots, and make all the decisions without input (that’s chauvinism). It does mean that she comes alongside me and allows me to point things in a certain direction without doubting my ability to pull something off. She let me decide how the budgets needed to be set up and how to find places to trim them so that we are both running balanced budgets while making sure that giving and saving take priority over spending.
- She is an awesome companion: I’m sure that not all money discussions will go like last night, but she and I legitimately had a good time looking at our finances and finding a way to build a system for our money that honors God and achieves the financial goals that we have as a couple. There were no bad attitudes, there was no shrugging, there was no frustration. She had a willingness and a focus for making this work that blew me away.
- She cares about my overall being: So this has nothing to do with the budget, but she made hamburgers that had spinach and blueberries blended into them so that we would have something healthy to eat for supper, she asks me what I am reading, and what God is teaching me. We share our struggles, and the things that we are praying for. We pray together, not only for ourselves and our relationship, but for our family, friends, community, and for the overall spread of the Gospel of Jesus.
I’m not usually really mushy on the blog, but I felt like this post was in order. Jess, when you read this, know that I love you, and I pray for you constantly. Thanks for being such an awesome fiance!
